3 Steps To Finding Confidence Within Your Wardrobe
Your First Step To A Better Day Is Found Within Your Closet
It’s no secret that we tend to dress “better” when we’re happy and confident. Everyone has their own style; some women prefer dresses and high heels, while others jeans and some tennis shoes. The way we dress reflects who we are and how we feel. Finding confidence to tackle your day starts with what you throw on in the morning.
In 2012 a study was released which proved that people will act differenty in accordance to the clothing they wear. In this study people were given white coats. The study consisted of 3 experiments in which the same white coat was worn but described differently.
When referenced as a simple “lab coat” there was an increase in selective attention. Additionally, when described as a doctor’s coat it showed a larger increase in attentive focus then when referenced as a painter’s coat.
The term enclothed cognition is used to explain the science behind how our emotions, status, and personality are all associated with our attire.
So this brings us to today’s topic,
“Sweatpants are a sign of defeat. You lost control of your life so you bought some sweatpants”
Now to give you a little background of myself, I am a born and raised Jersey girl. After traveling throughout the states I have learned of the overall image that most people tend to associate with the tristate area.
Big hair, high heels, tons of make-up, sealed with a loud, cocky personality.
While some of this may be true, let me start off by first acknowledging we are not ALL Italians. Jersey Shore has certainly done a bang up job at giving us northerners a reputation to uphold.
But one thing that growing up in the northeast does teach you is confidence. New York City, Philadelphia, and various cities in New Jersey are all known for their strong corporate influence. It’s only natural to assume that the people running this corporate world look and act the part.
Dressing with confidence is your first step to success.
The idea of wearing sweatpants has never fully sat well with me. I can honestly say that until my first pregnancy I never owned a single pair of sweatpants.
By using the same amount of effort it took to throw on those sweatpants you can easily find clothes that will also flatter your body.
Fake It Till You Make It
It’s true, some days we wake up and we’re totally not ready to face life. We unenthusiastically run a brush through our hair, throw on the first thing in our closet, and pay little or no attention to the type of shoes we’re slipping on.
We allowed our morning to shape the inspiration we have for the rest of our day. Occasionally this might not be a big deal, but eventually this could turn into a habit.
When we find ourselves in a “rut” it’s sometimes hard to find the emotional strength to break ourselves out.
How would you feel if I told you a better tomorrow could start by dressing better today? …
…And no, you don’t need to break out your 5-inch heels or a bold red lipstick.
- Clean out your closet and drawers.
- Remove the temptation to throw on that old beat up t-shirt, or that pair of holey socks. You have found “comfort” in these items, but because of this you have enabled yourself to stay within your current emotional rut. Face it; no one feels sexy wearing holes or stains.
- Start out simple
- The reason you chose the sweatpants was because they’re easy. They take absolutely no thought and hide whatever insecurities you’re facing. Create yourself some easy, but stylish outfits. If you’re a jeans type of girl, find some good fitting jeans and pair it with a nice new top. If you prefer dresses, acquire a couple of sundresses that’ll literally take .05 seconds to slip into. Set yourself up for a good day. I guarantee you’ll feel more confident in jeans and a top then a baggy pair of sweatpants and an ill fitted t-shirt.
- Dress the part
- You’re not going to throw on a bathing suit to go to a job interview, and you’re not going to dress for the Grammys knowing damn well you’re only shopping at Walmart. But if you’re not dressing positive, your day will not be positive.
When life hits us hard the last thing we’re worried about is what we look like. But because of this we are ultimately giving our subconscious self the wheel to drive the rest of our day.
To conclude this article I would like to mention my greatest inspiration when it comes to this piece of knowledge.
My Nan (grandmother) is a 70 something-year-old strong willed woman from New York. (She will never acknowledge her actual age.) I always admired my Nan because of her sense of style, always tasteful and well thought out. Her hair and nails are always done, and her makeup applied perfectly. She loves to flaunt her high heels, the matching handbag, and if it’s winter you’ll find her sporting a nice fur coat. My Nan is a beautiful woman. Not only because she can dress her ass off, but simply because she embraces who she is with confidence.
In a recent conversation I had confessed my admiration for how confidently she carried and put herself together. It was within this conversation that she had told me a story of a woman she met while in her mid 20s. She only knew this woman through passing, but for whatever reason this woman felt obligated to share a piece of wisdom that has stuck with my Nan for all these years.
The woman told her,
“No matter what happens in life you can never let yourself go….”
If you’ve found yourself in a rut or simply depressed to open your closet, it’s time to start over. Give yourself no other option but to feel and look better.
Go grab that trash bag and force yourself to make a change!